The Grammar Belle

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Why are y’all afraid of “me”?

A couple of nights ago, I lay awake (and exhausted) until 1:00 a.m. watching fabulous (train wreck-like) reality shows I had recorded. (Don’t judge me. I was doing research for this blog. There’s a lot you can learn from reality TV.*) In just one episode of Bachelor Pad I heard: “I think they really trust Michael and I,” “There’s some chemistry between Jaclyn and I,” and “This could be a new beginning for Chris and I.” And once again, I found myself yelling at my TV.

“Me” and the pronouns like it—him, her, us, them—are not bad guys. They’re just objective case. Maybe people think “I” sounds more proper or fancier or something. In the above situations, I blame “and.” Put that one little word in there and everyone’s grammar knowledge goes out the window. It’s like a mind eraser. But I digress.

Most† simple English sentences look something like this:
subject (doing the action) + action + object (receiving the action)
subject + action + object + preposition (“to,” “for,” etc.) + object

In this lesson we’re going to focus on the post-verb, back half of the sentence, OK? Let’s create some simple Bachelor Pad-themed sentences. If you simply use the It Sounds Right Test, I predict you’ll pick the right object 99.9% of the time:

(You chose correctly, right? You’d never say “He likes I,” right? Please tell me I’m right or I have more work ahead of me than I can handle. And I’ll need to buy more wine.)


Now, when your object is compound (meaning it has two or more parts) and needs an “and” or “or” or whatever, try it out FIRST with a simple, single object and see what sounds right. Is it:
I think they really trust I —OR— I think they really trust me?

That one’s easy! You know which pronoun to use, so add back in the other parts and you have a nice, properly constructed English sentence:
I think they really trust Michael and me.
I gave roses to Jaclyn and them.
This date card is for Ed and her.
He likes Blakeley and me.
(Chris is such a jerk. It’s time for him to go!)

Y’all get out there and use the right pronouns, OK? And promise me that if you’re ever on a reality TV show, you’ll make The Grammar Belle proud. My blood pressure can’t take any more yelling.

*Just last night I learned that surfing and drinking do not mix, you can cook chicken parmesan in 6-inch heels, one of the events at the Redneck Games is bobbing for pigs’ feet, and the Golden Gate Bridge is neither gold in color nor made of gold.
†Most, but not all. Predicate nominatives and the like will be covered later.

8 comments on “Why are y’all afraid of “me”?

  1. julie
    August 22, 2012

    Grammar genius once again! This post is for lots of people and ME.

  2. The Grammar Belle
    August 22, 2012

    Nice, Julie. Very nice.

  3. Ann
    August 22, 2012

    Brilliant! Far too many people use “I” and “me” incorrectly.

  4. Aviva
    August 22, 2012

    How about when people use “myself” incorrectly? It drives “I” nuts!!!

    • The Grammar Belle
      August 22, 2012

      It is definitely on my list of future topics, Aviva! Keep those pet peeves coming. 🙂

  5. Jennifer
    August 30, 2012

    LOL! I yell at the TV, other Facebook posts, etc. ALL THE TIME for this! One time I was doing a freelance job for a flyer and corrected this type of error. That client insisted on keeping it incorrect because they liked it better that way….OMG – I seriously drank a whole bottle of wine that night when I sent it off for print that way! While I get many grammar rules wrong or miss stuff all the time, there are some rules that make me want to pull out my hair!

  6. Pingback: A Year of Grammar Goodies (With Bonus Pop Quiz) | The Grammar Belle

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This entry was posted on August 22, 2012 by in Don't Make Me Beg, Grammar Dilemmas.

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